^^^ I don't care how anyone makes a wage, my only deal is I hope you are paying as little or no tax on those earnings...  Fuck the ATO and all the other Tax Offices.....

Interesting read.

I think hindsight is a strange thing. Sometimes we use hindsight to explain the present ie I'm here because of my mistake A, B ad C, or all my success is because of my planning, striving and intellect etc.

Most of us discount the role of pure dumb luck, and when something lucky goes well we say it was because we were so smart, or when something goes badly we blame someone else etc

At the end of the day, the position we currently find ourselves in is usually a result of thousands of factors all playing a part, but some survival traits seem to always be present I think.

I think some people chew on the the old bones of their misfortune so much that they never appreciate what they current have and rarely look forward to finding something better.

I used to envy people that could just 'get over it' and 'move on', because I found it very hard to do. I realised a lot of my being 'stuck' was worrying too much about what over people think, and worry about opening myself up to their ridicule.

I spent some time with some carefree and contented people, and learned the trick of it.

Basically whenever you feel yourself worrying about what other people will say, just say “Fuck-em” a few times until you feel better. Lol

I can’t think of any of my friends, associates, or clients who ever asked me why I started in the industry in which I worked. And I never asked the same of them. It would never occur to me to ask why a SW chose that job. We all choose different professions; hopefully one we will enjoy and also make a decent living from.

I can see you had a lightbulb moment Scarlett. The same thing  happened to me quite early in my working life. Like you, circumstances intervened at the time and I took a gamble to go in a different direction. Thankfully I did and subsequently had a ripper of a career, which was  quite different from what I originally imagined it would be.

@CaptainDarling mentioned the role of pure dumb luck. I agree with this as it certainly played a big part in my lightbulb moment. 

So Scarlett, four years later and in full time employment as an ASP, I’m guessing you are now very content. 

Well Captain, I'd agree with you and the luck comment. Our circumstances are a mixture of genetics, experience, culture, feelings and .... a bit of luck. 
I can look back and see the things that helped me into this moment-  I used to sell porn to the boys at school ?!!?  When you used to have those big black chunky rectangle things, a tape or something was it ?!  The most popular option was the magazines. Yes, an actually book. Arrrr the days... 
 Any wondering that .....errrrr.... a long time later I find myself in this profession ?

And PlayDoh... Am I content ? Am I ?  I most certainly am, as I've found a space where Scarlett being Scarlett is okay. 
You may of seen that I can be a little loud, a little too talkative, a little too ..... Well that's not the mould of the corporate world. I'm no longer invested in that world, and hence I can actually look back on it fondly rather than bitch about what it was not.. It just wasn't for me.

That 4 years was nearly 6 years ago and wow have I come into myself. The joy is really that I haven't stopped learning. And this career allows me that. I see myself in relation to others and I learn more about myself every single day. What I am good at, what I am not. What I think clients see, and the reflection of the human being they see before them. 
That's a career that I'll be happy in for years to cum. As long as the clients will have me.
 

11 hours ago, Amal Alamuddin said:

^^^ I don't care how anyone makes a wage, my only deal is I hope you are paying as little or no tax on those earnings...  Fuck the ATO and all the other Tax Offices.....

While your comment makes me laugh, it is a bit rich to ask for equality and recognition yet not pay my dues along the way ?

Do I jump up and down about paying taxes.... arrrrggg.... yet we have the roads to look after. Hospitals that anyone can go to. Anyone.
We have a police, ambulance and fire force to attend to the needs of the general public. Speaking of public we have schools that are gearing up the next generation that will hold the chalice while I sit my own piss, rocking in my chair, as I whinge about the younger generation leaving us old people in homes...

Hehhehehehee...

Appreciate your contribution Amal.

1 hour ago, Scarlett B Wilde said:

 

While your comment makes me laugh, it is a bit rich to ask for equality and recognition yet not pay my dues along the way ?

Do I jump up and down about paying taxes.... arrrrggg.... yet we have the roads to look after. Hospitals that anyone can go to. Anyone.
We have a police, ambulance and fire force to attend to the needs of the general public. Speaking of public we have schools that are gearing up the next generation that will hold the chalice while I sit my own piss, rocking in my chair, as I whinge about the younger generation leaving us old people in homes...

Hehhehehehee...

 

Appreciate your contribution Amal.

Yep if you can find a way to make others pay then well done... 

Interesting story Scarlett!

These days I believe free will is an illusion and it’s a person’s history, environment and genetics determine exactly what she’ll do at any given moment whether it’s blow her nose or embark on a career as an ASP.

This means that when a person is asked why she did something, a narrative needs to be invented that fits the facts of her life and the image of the woman she’d like to be.

Do you give a range of different answers to different punters?

Sometimes people can have difficulty changing direction in life. If they are lucky they will be happy and continue to be so. Others will be unhappy but find change is even worse so they will stay in a relationship, or avoid relationships or avoid changing jobs.

Jill seems to be in the category where she is happy and unchanging but the world is going to pass her by, and she has been forced to change and that will cause unhappiness. Maybe less happy than if she had taken the initiative and modified her business. 

On 19/06/2019 at 5:29 PM, JustinCaseItsBroken said:

These days I believe free will is an illusion and it’s a person’s history, environment and genetics determine exactly what she’ll do at any given moment whether it’s blow her nose or embark on a career as an ASP.

 

This means that when a person is asked why she did something, a narrative needs to be invented that fits the facts of her life and the image of the woman she’d like to be.

 

Do you give a range of different answers to different punters?

I give the same answer, yet considering whom I'm with, I will adjust the length or omit details of said story.
Some will ask out of politeness and aren't after a detailed answer, and then there's the regular whom I know quite well and feel they're genuinely interested in the how, what, where and when.

Too true that life isn't just our decisions, yet our reactions to situations that arise through life that are beyond our control are.
To me, life is a lot like a poker game. I can't effect the cards I'm dealt, yet I can have an effect on the way I react to those deals. A shit hand can still win, when a skilled player is at the table.

On 19/06/2019 at 6:17 PM, bushmaster said:

Sometimes people can have difficulty changing direction in life. If they are lucky they will ....

"I am a great believer in luck, and I find the harder I work, the more I have of it."
- Thomas Jefferson 

14 hours ago, Scarlett B Wilde said:

 

"I am a great believer in luck, and I find the harder I work, the more I have of it."
- Thomas Jefferson 

Yes, but there is always a luck component.I've been lucky through working hard, I've also been unlucky through no fault of my own, just bad genetics. Maybe I should have worked harder to get better parents.

I believe the quote I offered gave space for that.
Sometimes in the bad, is the opportunity. How you play with that opportunity is within your control.

I've found some of the most encouraging people in my life are the one's that, despite a disability, and living in a world full of ableism, a man with no legs can climb a mountain or crawl the Kokoda trail.
That's truly a great example of said quote.

It makes me think of the opportunities I miss that are afforded to me.